Bedwetting Schmedwetting – Out do it. Not outgrow it.

The more I see what’s still out there about bedwetting the more disappointed I become. I’ve helped hundreds of families out-do bedwetting in their children. Is it possible that we still really believe that restricting liquids has anything at all to do with bedwetting? Doctors, why are you still advising your parents to “wait until (s)he outgrows it!” Waiting doesn’t cure bedwetting. Restricting liquids doesn’t cure bedwetting. Medication doesn’t even cure bedwetting. What does? Training. It’s that simple. There are a few rules and a few tools to use but it can be done! (Yes, with a bedwetting alarm – but watch the video to learn what type).

It takes a little time to out-do bedwetting. It doesn’t go away overnight. The quickest I’ve seen a kid get dry was 2 weeks. But the norm is more like 90 days (3 months). Some kids take a little longer, too. But that’s okay. If it goes longer than average, we should also look at other potential causes (e.g. food allergy). But the bottom line is, DO SOMETHING about bedwetting. The longer it continues the greater the likelihood of the ‘secret’ getting out.

A short post today because I spent the majority of the day working on the video. I hope you like it.



Why do people think diapers for bedwetting is a good idea?

Let me tell you about 9-year-old Samuel who wet the bed almost every night, and 6-year-old Jacob who was dry from around the time he stopped wearing diapers in the daytime. They were brothers.

Mom and Dad tried almost everything (not all at once, of course) to get Samuel dry, but nothing worked.

They made him use the toilet several times during the day.
They restricted liquids before bed.
They woke him before they went to bed.
They set an alarm clock for him to wake up in the night.
They used a bedwetting alarm.
They even took him to the doctor who said, “Don’t worry. He’ll outgrow it.”

One day, Samuel’s parents thought they had THE solution that would bring them to that elusive day, when Samuel would finally be a Dry Kid. They bought him a package of “big kid” diapers.

Samuel’s parents thought this was the solution. Since Samuel wouldn’t have a wet bed, he would feel better about his bedwetting. They also liked that he would be able to sleep through the night and that there would be no more wet sheets to deal with every morning. In their minds, it was a win-win.

But Mom and Dad failed to consider the questions that would begin to play over and over in Samuel’s mind.
“Why do I have to wear diapers?” (Remember, Jacob doesn’t).
“What if my friends find out?”
“What’s wrong with me?”

These are not thoughts that any parent wants their child to have about themselves. And as much as we try to convince them that, “This is only until you’re dry,” and “No one will know.” We really don’t know how long it will be or who may find out. And as far as, “what’s wrong with me?” The best we may have are stories from our own personal experience with bedwetting. The bottom line is, our words aren’t going to help. Your child just wants to be dry!

So, diapers for bedwetting will absorb the wetness. It will help with the laundry. And your child may get a few hours of extra sleep. But it doesn’t make a Dry Kid.

I recommend NOT waiting to “outgrow it.” Instead, help your child to “out-do” bedwetting. I’m writing these posts to show you how.

Is bedwetting inherited?

Bedwetting is kind of inherited, but not exactly.

Sometimes a kid that wets the bed has a parent or grandparent that also wet the bed but since bedwetting (which is also called enuresis [en-your-ee-sis]) is a sleep disorder, it’s more common to see other sleep disorders such as snoring, sleep apnea and narcolepsy. It’s nice to know the cause of bedwetting because bedwetting can be caused by a medical condition. However, this is rare. A clue that bedwetting may be due to a medical condition is that there is a period of waking up dry (e.g. several months) before the bedwetting began again.

To read more about sleep disorders click here.